Ending a relationship can be difficult, especially if you were very close to that person during the period, and now that it is gone, you feel hurt and empty. This is why it is important to address the types of methods you practice to get over a break-up. Remember, life is full of surprises, so don’t expect your first relationship to be your only one, but always enjoy the feeling as you can. Do not think it has anything to do with your character, it just wasn’t meant to be. Let’s look at the ways you can overcome the pain you feel after a breakup.
Acknowledge your Feelings: This is very important to your self-health, as you sit down and quietly understand what you are feeling. Take a moment to cry, as crying release emotions and improves your mood afterwords. If you are feeling angry, it is natural, just find a safe and secure way to let it out, by yelling or punching a bag, anything that helps. It is best not to demonstrate your feelings in public, only in private. Do not put yourself in a position where you feel you are stuck, move on from that person. Being stuck is not good for your health, so cry out your memories and move on.
Eating Your Favorite Food: This is a common practice, eating ice cream or greasy fast food to overcome your breakup. When you are eating, the flavor helps take your mind off your breakup, enjoying the food. However, only do this once, as eating unhealthy foods is not a good idea. Just use it as a one-time form of therapy to help yourself heal, mentally.
Take Care of Yourself: What ‘taking care of yourself’ means is that you partake in healthy activities, playing your favorite sport or going to the spa, whatever makes you feel good after leaving your ex-partner. Get a massage and rub those feelings of ended love out of your body. Don’t turn to drinking or smoking, which are commonly associated with depression. Remember, you should love yourself the most, and that is why you should do healthy things for yourself.
Remove Reminders: Moving on means cutting out that person from your life. Photos, videos, anything that is tied to that person should be deleted or removed, only if you feel the memories are hurting you in any way. Even if they were fond memories, move on from them, improving your future for another relationship. Getting stuck on someone can obscure your chances of moving on to a different person, especially when your new partner comes across pictures or presents from your ex-partner. Also, blocking your ex on social media is part of this process, and should be done, no matter how hard it is to move on from them.
Closure: The importance of closure is that it allows you to remove any ‘residue’ of hurt regarding your ex. Finding closure is best done without your ex-partner’s presence, instead with family or friends. Share your thoughts with one of these people, or a group at a time, explaining your current situation to your confidante. Writing a letter about your experience with your ex is one way to let it out, first writing it and then reading it out loud. And afterwards, tear that letter apart, once you are finished, symbolizing the end of your relationship. But at the same time, you acknowledge the relationship wasn’t a waste, you had that experience and are now moving on.
Remember your Ex’s Bad Qualities: This may seem uncanny, but remembering your ex’s flaws will help overcome any feelings of longing you may have, helping you move on. Sit down and write a list of the bad qualities you remember, like if your ex-partner was too loud eating or drove badly, things that will make you feel glad you are not together. This is not to say your ex-partner was a bad person, but remembering their bad aspects instead of their good ones, which they surely had, helps you heal and move on.
Go on a Solo Trip: Loose yourself during a trip, and at the same time, you will find yourself. What this means is that you embark on a busy adventure, maybe to the tropics or the Alps, anywhere that makes you feel alone but energetic. Sure, you may have done trips with your ex-partner before, but this time, you choose a different place and find out details about yourself, now that you are single.
Meditate: This is similar to ‘taking care of yourself’ tip, but meditation is important for your mental state. It helps soothe out pains, even while recalling your ex-partner, as you are breathing in peace and understanding it is over now. This can be done right after your breakup, saying your last goodbye to your partner. Meditation keeps you from breaking down hard or bursting out at that moment. Search up ways to meditate or download an app on your phone.
Don’t Rebound: This is a rash and reckless action, as many people tend to call up people from their past after a breakup. This is done so they won’t be lonely, but just as you move on from one partner doesn’t mean you need to hit up an older one. Also, do not dive back into the dating game a day after your breakup, give yourself time to relax and heal. It is never a good idea to rush into relationships, especially if your ex’s memories are still fresh.
Find Ways To Better Yourself: This is a broad statement, but what it refers to is your true character and who you are in life. Focus on your career, your house, anything that takes your focus from your breakup. Continue to better yourself, as all individuals do, growing in this world. Once you keep yourself active, you will forget about your ex-partner, and who knows, a new relationship might start once people see how busy and hard-working you are.
Babak Eslami | Writer
